Saturday, June 30, 2012

The Adventure Continues

The first few days were pretty much a ram-shackled mess of trying to change our day for night, unpacking, and finding things to eat because Shane’s truck had been moved to a company office while he was in the States and we couldn’t get to any grocery stores.

Luckily one of the other American families was just headed out to renew their visas back home in Idaho, so they dropped off their extra food and took Shane on a late grocery run where he bought the last box of milk and the last loaf of bread there. But it was something, and we were grateful.
Unpacking was moving along. The girls were happily reunited with their meager toy collection. I’m happy to report my casserole dish made the trip safely. Along with my sewing machine. Yes, I brought it with me.  As I was starting to get to the bottom of our luggage pile, I soon realized that we were still missing a piece of luggage. It was one of the most important ones, too: The FOOD bag. Oh, yes, somehow we had left Moscow without the bag containing all my spices, baking powder, peanut butter, Shane’s beloved Ranch mix—everything. It might not seem so bad, but the grocery stores don’t even carry VANILLA here. One of the Americans found powdered vanilla in one of the bigger cities, which technically, the Company won’t even let us drive to. So, no vanilla, no cinnamon, no Italian seasoning, chilli powder, seasoned salt, zilch, nada—A deathly blow to my amateur cooker’s heart.
One of the Russian interpreters (and HR personnel), who also helps with all our travel plans, tried to get the airport to just deliver the suitcase to the company office in Moscow, but it was a no-go. Shane would have to appear, in person, to claim it. That meant another trip back to Moscow. There just happened to be a new couple flying in to Moscow a couple of days later, so it was determined that Shane would take that van shuttle to Moscow when it went to pick them up. We had a couple of days to settle in a little more before he left, and Shane was able to pick up some groceries so I could feed the girls until he got back.
About 5 PM the night Shane was supposed to leave, the power went out. Shane told me it was typical for the power to flicker, or occasionally go off for an hour or two. No worries, he said, it will probably be on by morning. The van driver pounded on our door that night at midnight (June 7th). After a quick goodbye kiss, Shane walked out into the night, and then I was alone.
I went back to bed, determined to be prepared to tackle the next day. When I awoke, I went to the kitchen to cook some eggs—one meal I was confident I could cook, and confident that the girls would eat. But lo and behold—still no power. Of all days for the power to be out, it would be the one where I was completely alone with very few meals I could cook without power. For breakfast, we ate some Russian cold cereal with boxed milk.
I spent the morning pouring through my Russian phrase book trying to piece together some fragment of a sentence to find out about the power. I noticed a group of people by the office and the girls were momentarily distracted, so I slipped out to go ask. Tatiana, the farm administrator, didn’t even bother to try to understand my butchered Russian. She called an interpreter. You almost need another interpreter to understand the interpreter’s heavily-accented English. I think he said something about them working on it, and it would be fixed in about an hour. I breathed a sigh of relief—maybe it would be on in time to cook something for lunch.

About an hour later, 3 Russians came and started banging and drilling in the attic. Slightly confused about how this would fix my power, I just went about trying to entertain the girls. Soon they left and still nothing. Our growling stomachs told us that it was past lunchtime. No peanut butter and jam sandwiches since the peanut butter was in the LOST bag. No stove top meals, no microwave rescues. I wasn’t even sure when the power would resume, so I had restricted the girls and myself from opening the fridge or freezer doors unless it was dire. Even then, it was only cracked a little, and then quickly closed. I didn’t want the food that Shane had just bought to spoil, so I tried to conserve as much of the coolness of the fridge. That cut even further into our meal options. The bread, milk, juice, jam – all in the fridge. I think we ate some crackers from the cupboard for lunch.

I had no internet, so I couldn’t Skype Shane for help, or anyone else. The girls were getting restless, even after a walk outside to explore. So I chanced using some of the battery of my computer so the girls could watch a movie. It provided some diversion to our hunger. Soon I had to get a new bottle for Echo. I opened the fridge door, and groaned when I could feel that the temperature in the fridge matched the temperature of the room. I didn’t want to check the freezer and lose what coolness I had in there either. I grabbed a loaf of bread and some juice, and shut the door to my now-warm fridge.

Dinnertime was looming and still no power. I gave the girls more juice and crackers, and we started another movie. A little after 5, the lights flickered and turned on. I breathed a sigh of relief, and quickly put a pan on the stove to boil some water before it went out again.

Then the girls and I had dinner, and went to bed. Shane got home around Midnight that night with our last piece of luggage. A 24-hour trip, with about 18 hours of it sitting in a van, all for one suitcase. But we were excited to get it, and even more happy for the power to be on and our Dad to be back.

Some pictures of the first few days:
The Unpacking - YAY!


Helping Dad build their bunk bed

Helping Mom unpack.

Echo has mastered the art of putting herself in the center of activity

Another entertaining use of the empty suitcases
Baby Bananas!
The girls were ecstatic and ate them all in one day
Echo was being creative and using the dust brush to comb the doll's hair

I wonder who's hiding in there...


PEEK-A-BOO!


Having lots of fun with Shado's clever play boards

Thanks Aunt Shado - we've had hours of fun already!

Picking flowers

Reminiscent of a Renaissance moment

Echo's dramatic Shakespearean pose: "Romeo, oh Romeo, wherefore art thou, Romeo?"

Picking flowers has become a favorite pasttime
Mesa was lucky enough to get a quick ride when Daddy stopped by the house.

Tuesday, June 26, 2012

Russia: The Adventure Begins

(WARNING: This is a 4,000 word post. Sometimes I just can't help but be a little wordy. But I hope you enjoy sharing our journey with us.)

And we’re off. Maybe. What an adventure we had starting our Big Adventure! By the end, I wasn’t sure how much more adventure our little family could handle.
The plan was simple: Leave Tuesday, May 29th and drive to Las Vegas.  Stay in motel right next to airport. Get up and get to airport to leave on 11:35 AM flight to Los Angeles.  Then a short 3-1/2 hour layover at LAX and catch our 4:30 flight to Moscow.  Lastly, an 8-hour van ride to our new home. Easy as pie.
What really happened? Almost none of it.
The bulk of Tuesday, May 29th was a lot of sorting, cleaning, last minute errands, and odds and ends. Our renters started moving stuff in the same day we were moving stuff out and there was the small matter of getting my “Russia Room” all into our suitcases.
Russia Room: View I
My mom worked nonstop all day performing this daunting and (to me) nearly impossible feat.

Russia Room: View 2
I tried to be very selective in what I brought, but there were a lot of categories for which to pack: Clothes and personal items for each person, horse and work stuff for the farms, cooking paraphernalia and spices, educational material for homeschooling the girls, church materials for helping at our branch meetings, medicine cabinet and other first aid, toys and entertainment for the girls, diapers and wipes, etc. I even pared down as we packed.

But 20 pieces of luggage later, the feat was accomplished. We left a LOT of loose ends for family to tie up (BIG THANK YOU!).
I know there's a kitchen sink in there somewhere, too.
Maybelline was feeling quite insecure that day. Poor girl.
We had to take the truck to fit all the luggage and us into one vehicle. We could’ve taken the shuttle to the airport, but after the shuttle fee for each person and $5 extra for every piece of luggage above their allotted 2/passenger, it was cheaper to pay our own fuel and have the flexibility to stop if needed.
We ate a quick dinner at Denny’s in St. George. Halfway through my chicken sandwich, I realized it was raw in the middle. I was really worried I would have food poisoning for the whole trip, but luckily I bypassed that one. Then we drove to Las Vegas and checked into our hotel next to the airport.
Echo enjoying her fries at Denny's.
The girls had been on some crazy schedules lately, so putting them to bed was a challenge. Echo fussed and screamed for hours.  She was so exhausted, but she’s not one to cuddle and rock to sleep. As soon as she starts to feel confined, she starts struggling more.  My best bet has been to put her in her play pen and shut the door when it’s bed time, and rarely is there a fuss. She just goes to sleep. But obviously we were going to have to relearn how to go to sleep without a playpen for the next several nights.  We all took turns holding Echo trying to get her to sleep, which didn’t happen until about 3 AM.
Shane left early in the morning to be at IFA when it opened at 8 to pick up a new hat. He was back by 8:30 and we were ready to head to airport.
Once we were parked, we had to rig up a system where we could move all our luggage at once. We rented two carts and tied the rest together. Then it was off to the ticket counter to check in. And so began the world of lines and waiting. I took our e-tickets to the kiosks and checked in, but there was one problem. The baby was not listed on our trip itinerary with the other passengers. That was the Delay Number One. After finally getting helped, it was determined that with American Airlines, Echo is required to ride as an infant in one of our laps, rather than in the car seat that we specifically brought for this reason, AND even though we had requested the company to buy a separate ticket for her.
I know, YIKES!
Delay Number Two: the Luggage. Shane wanted to check our luggage straight through to Moscow, which at first they said they couldn’t do, which meant we would have to collect it in LA and then recheck and repay all the luggage fees to Aeroflot, the Russian airline. Then they wanted to charge ridiculous fees for the luggage. For each passenger, the first piece was free, the second was $50.00 and the third and each piece after was $150. We bought 3 large airline bags they offered for $25/each and stuffed them full of our smaller pieces of luggage. We further condensed our luggage from 20 pieces to 13. I’m not sure what changed, but $825 later, our luggage was checked and was going to meet us in Moscow. Then it was the mad dash to get to our gate. Shane pulled most of the carry-on’s, I carried my purse, the diaper bag, and Echo most of the way. And typically, Mesa HAD to be holding one of our hands in order for her feet to work. She was also PETRIFIED of the escalators, and the “running walkways”. Between Rain and Mesa, we had a few spills. Rain did a pretty good job at walking by herself and keeping up with our crazy convoy. She also navigated the escalators and walkways with a little self-mastery. It was one less hand or object that I had to drag, pull, carry, or coerce, so I was thankful for that small mercy.
Delay Number Three: Security. Line after line we begged and pleaded with people to let us cut in front so that we could get through security faster. Poor Mesa. She is scared to walk under trees and stop signs, so everything went WAY beyond her pace of comfort. Just walking through the metal detector was a life and death act. I’m sure they will be forever traumatized after all the pushing, pulling, waiting, dragging, screaming, and scary airport security and such. I can’t wait to do it all over again in a couple weeks.
I herded the luggage and the girls up to the tram that would take us to the remote international terminal and waited and waited for Shane. Train after train came and went while the girls cried as each one left us behind. I didn’t want to be separated from Shane that much, so I just waited. Finally, I dragged all the luggage and the girls back down to security to see what the delay was: the diaper bag. Every baby bottle had to be individually tested. If I had known that was the issue I would have told Shane to throw them all away. But we finally got on the train and made it to the international terminal. Then we were running and dragging girls again. I could feel the last of my energy sapping out. It had been a very emotionally and physically taxing morning and I was starting to hit a sugar low. I was shaking, out of breath, and pushing myself to our gate check-in counter. I got there first and the lady very abruptly and unsympathetically said that it was too late. My heart seemed to stop even though it was pounding out of my chest.
I shook my head at Shane who was still a little ways down the hall, conveying the message that we were too late. He was as incredulous as I was. There sat our plane out the window, with the jetway tunnel from the terminal gate to the airplane still in place. And they wouldn’t let us board. My body had hit its max by that point, especially with such a horrible culmination. I sat down on a chair at our gate and we watched as our plane eventually pulled away from the ramp and took its place in the flow of plane traffic and left without us. I tried to entertain the girls and explain the situation to them of why we had to “wait again” instead of get on our airplane, while Shane stood in line trying to figure out what we were supposed to do.
Blessed naptime
American Airlines said they could put us on the next flight to LA, which left in about 5 hours, but by then we would have missed our connecting flight to Moscow. Since the company bought the tickets, we didn’t know what we were or were not allowed to do about rearranging our flight schedule. We tried to call them but obviously with the time difference nobody was going to be awake and in the office to hear our predicament.

We sent emails to everyone in the company we had a connection with that might be able to get a message to the head office and help us find an alternate flight. If I had been a little more confident, I would have tried to buy tickets ourselves to get our family to LA as soon as possible.  The flight from Las Vegas to Los Angeles is only about a 42 minute flight. Even if we had to fork out money to go with a different airline to get us to LA, there was a possibility we could use our layover time (3-1/2 hours) to catch our connecting flight if we could just get to LA. But I didn’t know if I would cause more trouble doing something like that. So, after MORE WAITING around the airport, catching some lunch, throwing in a couple naps, and emailing back and forth with some of the other Americans in Russia, we went ahead and caught the next AA flight out of Vegas to LA. We got to LA Wednesday night at about 6:30PM and I finally felt like we were making progress. We got to the baggage carousel to pick up our luggage, because they had cancelled our luggage shipment to Moscow. But it never came. So I sat there with our carry-ons, the diaper bag, the purse, and the 3 girls while Shane stood in a line, trying to track down our luggage.  3 HOURS LATER, Shane said that nobody knew for sure where our luggage was. American Airlines said 9 of the 13 pieces had been checked to Aeroflot, but Aeroflot wasn’t open to confirm it or not. Either way, we weren't going to get to see any of it that night.
We found a hotel close that offered free airport shuttle service and booked a room. What a relief it was to close the door to that hotel room and let the girls roam freely for once in the last 24 hours. We ordered in some late night takeout and put the girls to bed. The hotel had complimentary cribs which fit PERFECTLY in the closet. At last there was some semblance of a nighttime routine for Echo and a much needed rest for Shane and me.

Aeroflot flies out of LA on Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays, and there is no one at the desk on the off-days, which meant we were stuck in LA for at least 2 days. Shane took the shuttle back to the airport in the morning and was there for several hours again trying to sort out our luggage so that when our flight left the next day, it would be going with us. We finally got an email from the company. They told us that they had rebooked our flight on the next day, but “unfortunately, [we] would be responsible for paying for the flight from LA to Moscow.” When we were researching flights on Expedia, our flight for our family was over $7,000. So that was a disappointment knowing that we weren’t even there yet, but we would be paying for our tickets. I understand the company’s position, but it wasn’t entirely our fault that we missed our flight. And I don’t know how I personally could have physically done any more to get us there on time. I pushed myself as far and as fast as I could. But from what everyone tells me, people miss flights all the time and it shouldn’t be that big of a deal to just bump us to the next flight for a minimal fee. So, we’ll see what happens. I told Shane that I hope he enjoys his new $7,000 cowboy hat because that was probably the one thing we could pin it on for making us miss our flight.
Since we were stuck in LA until Friday, we decided to make the best of it. We used the city buses to ride to Target to pick up some things to hold us over since we didn’t have all of our luggage. We tried to go swimming with the girls at the pool, but it was a little chilly and there was no hot tub. We went to bed early and prepared for our second attempt at conquering the airport.

My little troopers! THIS is how I want to remember the trip.
If I remember right, our flight to Moscow left at around 4:30 local time, but we were at the airport by about noon, trying to track down the last of our luggage. There was more waiting for the girls and me while Shane stood in line. In the end, some of our carry-ons were overweight for the international flight overhead bin weight limit. From a distance, I cringed helplessly as I watched Shane trying to rearrange our suitcases. Out came my one glass casserole dish I brought, which had been carefully packed and protected with padding, get shoved into a suitcase with hangers, books, and toys. But there was little I could do about it. Another 2 hours later, the luggage was checked again and our fingers were crossed that everything would end up with us on the other end of the flight.
Not wanting to take any chances, we went straight through security and to our gate. And waited. Again. The time finally came and we gathered up our stuff one more time to make the bus trip to the plane. We were doing so well, and then Mesa latched onto some irrational thought of needing a green bag of some sort somewhere back from where we had come. Once Mesa sets her mind on a certain thought, she becomes undistractable, inconsolable, and uncooperative. She literally screamed the entire way off the bus, into the building, up the long ramp, through the jetway, and onto the plane.

I endured many looks from pity, to sympathy, to scorn. The non-English-speaking stewardess who tried to console Mesa as we passed only made her scream louder. On I marched, carrying my purse and the diaper bag over one shoulder, clutching Echo on one hip, and dragging Mesa with the other hand. I marched resolutely past all of First Class, who were already comfortably seated, then Business class, trying not to make eye contact, nor take anyone’s head out with the diaper bag which by then had slid down my arm in my attempt to keep Mesa moving and was now precariously swinging back and forth. My arm was also in a death loop around Echo’s midsection and I was sure she would choose that moment to throw up the gallons of fluids we had drowned her in, trying to keep her placated during the day. I was also trying to keep tabs on Echo’s bottle and binky (which I never got a chance to put binky keeper on), trying to keep Rain moving along, and finding our seat so I could crawl under them and hide.

Thankfully, Row 32 appeared and I started unloading my arms so I could help Shane, who I thought was right behind me but had somehow disappeared. Come to find out, the aisles are too narrow to roll your carry-ons through, so once you board the plane, everyone collapses the pullout handles and carries them on the plane. But we had 4 carry-ons and a laptop, so Shane was having a hard time carrying them all at once. Suddenly another passenger appeared carrying our luggage. I don’t think she even understood me when I said thank you. She just moved along down the aisle. Shane appeared, slightly flustered, and began putting things in the overhead bins.

Our seats were not all together but we sat together anyway in hopes that the other passengers would have mercy on our plight and take the other seats. Mesa FINALLY quieted down after we buckled everyone in.  I think having a little TV screen of her very own in front of her seat might have had something to do with it. Echo was doing fine on my lap until the stewardess brought a nylon strap that attached to my seat belt and became Echo’s seat belt. Maybe it didn’t matter that we didn’t have our car seat with us—she despises confinement in any form, and this seat belt was no different. She started to fuss, then cry, then scream. Nothing consoled her, and again the looks began. I’m sure everyone was tired of our family and the 13-hour flight hadn’t even started. But I couldn’t blame her, really. It had been a taxing day, without a nap, and it was starting to come through. We gave her a Melatonin tablet and I held her while she struggled until she finally fell asleep just before take-off.
Thankfully there are no photos of this segment of the trip for I’m sure I would die of embarrassment all over again.

All the girls slept for the first little while and I dozed with Echo in my arms before I gave up and watched a movie. The girls didn’t care for much of the food that was served on the plane, but we tried to get them to eat something to help them from getting too hungry or nauseous. It was barely an hour into the flight when I felt a warm sensation in my lap and I knew instantly Echo’s diaper had leaked. Super. This trip was getting longer by the minute.

Airplane restrooms are cramped quarters as it is. Trying to lay a child down to change a diaper was even more challenging. And trying to fit me and one of the girls in the bathroom at the same time when one of them needed to go was more than awkward. Especially after about 8 hours into the trip when the floor began to get sticky from tipsy passengers who couldn’t hit the mark.

Even though we left Friday evening, it’s like you fly with the sun, so it’s day the whole time you are flying. Everyone kept the windows covered so they could sleep. When one of the covers was lifted, the light was unbelievably blinding. After hours of sitting in the same chair holding Echo, my mind and body were feeling quite claustrophobic. Shane took Echo for a while, but somehow Rain ended up sleeping in my lap, so I didn’t feel it was much of a break.  

Without being able to sleep or read leisurely, the flight seemed never-ending. But end it eventually did. We disembarked directly onto the tarmac and approached an imposing building. Already there were military personnel stationed around and along with it, the guilty feeling like I am in imposter and have committed some crime. Don’t ask me why.

We found the international/overweight baggage carousel and settled in for another wait. I think we arrived in Moscow between 2-3 PM local time, but we didn’t leave on our van to the farms until about 8 PM. Our luggage was missing again. I settled into our “waiting routine” with the girls again while Shane went in search of someone who spoke English. I was very thankful we had our laptop for the girls to watch movies on, Wi-Fi to keep connected with people, and Welch’s fruit snacks.

We had two Russians drivers to take us to the farms. They pretty much grumbled and rolled their eyes at our mound of luggage. Neither one spoke a word of English. We could barely get them to stop long enough for us to use the ATM at the airport. We pulled out 5,000 rubles (approx. 150USD) and went to the van. After loading all of the luggage, we settled the girls in for the last stretch of the journey. It might not have been so bad, except we left at night so it wasn’t like you could watch the scenery, it rained sporadically, the seats were hard, and the roads did not make sleeping very comfortable. And then the drivers started smoking in the van. Being around cigarette smoke out of doors gives me an instant migraine. The one inch gap in the windows did little to alleviate the fumes. I was not very pleased with the situation and I wanted to cover up all my girls’ faces so they didn’t have to breathe it.
About 4 hours into the trip we stopped at a gas station to stretch our legs, grab a snack, and go to the bathroom.  Each task got more challenging as we went. The girls’ jackets were stuffed somewhere unreachable, so it was too chilly to really walk around much outside. Picking snacks was interesting. We got some bread, some yogurt drinks, and some Lay’s chips. We had to have our driver get some change for our 1,000 ruble bill because it was too big for the cashier to break.

But going to the bathroom takes the cake. Oh, the bathrooms. That was the kicker. It took a little communication juggling to get the point across that we needed a restroom. They finally directed us out the store, around the back, and away from the building to a concrete structure. There were no signs on the doors indicating BOYS/GIRLS, well, what am I saying, there weren’t any doors at all for that matter! Shane stood in front of the opening to guard the “bathroom”. The stench curled my nostril hairs and made my stomach roll a bit. I didn’t even bother looking for toilet paper. I mostly tried to keep my feet clean while I held each girl over “The Hole”. Forgive me, but I had to take a picture, which doesn’t even do it justice. We just put on our brave faces and went about our business. Escaping back to the smoke-filled van almost seemed better?
Our 5-Star bathroom, fondly dubbed "The Hole"

The drivers swapped and the other driver started drinking and soon passed out for the rest of the trip. I can’t be certain what was in the bottles they were passing back and forth, but I was more than a little concerned about our drivers being intoxicated and being responsible for getting my little family to our new home safely.

“It was a dark and rainy night”, and Russian drivers are crazy. The drinking, the rain, the insane passing—it was almost too much-- and then our only semi-sober driver kept falling asleep.  I just knew we were going to all die on some stretch of dark Russian highway. We stopped probably 5-6 times the second half of the trip so the driver could get out, walk around the van, slap his face, pee next to our windows (thank goodness it was dark and the girls were semi-unconscious), or do whatever else he could to wake himself up enough to drive a few dozen more kilometers.  Shane tried to get him to let him drive since Shane had his Russian ‘driver’s license’ but he either didn’t understand or didn’t think it was allowed. Only on the wings of the hundreds of prayers I offered did we pull mercifully into our new driveway just before 5 AM.
The girls were beyond fed up with being cooped up in one form or another for days and were ecstatic to have the house to themselves for freedom and exploration. Shane got right to work, pulling some food out of his freezer and fried us up some vegetables, chicken nugget things, and French fries. We were all starving, so it was a feast quickly eaten. Then we made a bed on the floor for the girls, and luckily, the company had procured a crib for us for Echo, so we went about the usual bedtime routine. We got the girls to bed as the sun was rising, but there were few complaints and Shane and I fell asleep on the couch, too exhausted to care about much else. All that mattered was that we were finally, all together again, in Russia. Let the adventure begin!


All us girls!


Saturday, April 21, 2012

Little Walking Echo

I had to smile at my title. It sounds like a little Indian name. Maybe Echo's Indian name would more aptly be something like: Little-One-Who-Must-Be-Carried-ALL-Day, or Little-Busy-One-Who-Makes-Momma-Laugh-And-Cry-At-Once. She really wears me out with all the things I need to get done right now and all she was to do is sit in my lap and play. But I love that little girl to pieces. She is getting so grown up. Here are a few pictures of the latest.
She wanted to ride bikes with the big girls.
Marx, the cat, is a relic from my childhood. Here he is again to enjoy another generation of munching kids' toes.
Cousins riding bikes


Look at all those beautiful girls!


Eating like a big girl
Echo is very independent and will typically eat more food if I let her sit at the little table with the older girls and feed herself. We mop the floor a lot more, but that's probably a good thing.


Anyway, my little Echo is walking, finally. All my girls are slow to walk, but Echo has seemed to make it stretch out even longer. I think she likes me to carry her too much. But since she is so independent and curious, you would think she would've mastered this long ago. But we are off and running now, so that's all that matters.






Such a fun little girl. She's my most cuddly baby and the only one that has a special blankie to sleep with. It's hard to see my baby grow up.



Saturday, April 14, 2012

4 more weeks...

The power is supposed to go out in a few minutes--for about 6 hours, so pictures will have to be posted later. But I guess the major update is that Shane is still not home. He was supposed to fly home April 3rd, but it was decided that for all parties involved, it was better* for him to wait until his visa expires before coming home. So instead of 6 weeks, it will be 10 weeks. I was highly disappointed, but I guess it goes with the territory.
I got to thinking about how long we have been apart--by far the longest we have ever been apart since we were married. Including when we got married and I flew back to Kentucky two days later to finish my internship. 10 weeks--that's like 1/5th of a year, or 1/4 of a pregnancy! It's been so long that it's starting to feel normal, as sad as that is. Day in and day out, the girls and I have our routine, and we just keep on chugging along.

*So, I have a little extra time tonight, so I thought I would update why it was better to wait.

First of all, there are two other Americans whose visas expired before Shane's did. That meant while they were all home renewing their visas, the company would be short 3 guys, which at this point in the setup would really cripple the operation. They are still in the hiring process as it is, so having that many workers gone at the same time would leave them severely short-handed. Shane is officially managing 2 full ranches at this point.  

Second, since the rest of our family has all their passports already, they discussed flying Shane home immediately (about 4 days earlier than we had anticipated), having our visas expedited, and then have us all hurry back to Russia (like 2 weeks or less). So the point was to squeak Shane home and back to Russia, before the other two workers had to leave. But, after checking with the Consulate, we learned that they would NOT re-issue Shane another visa while his current one was still active. That meant, he would fly home, we would cram the rest of our packing/leaving into 2 weeks, then fly back to Russia.  Seems harmless, until we found out that after the girls and I were settled in Russia, Shane would STILL have to leave the country again and wait a couple weeks to renew his visa because that one was still active. Not only would this leave me and the girls ALONE in Russia, mind you, but then everytime thereafter, we would likely be on different visa schedules, and possibly always out of sync with traveling with each other. NOT AN OPTION in my book. It would also incur unnecessary travel expenses for the company. 

Thirdly, I'm not getting cold feet, but I am really enjoying this little bit of extra time to visit with family, sort and pack, find a renter, wrap up business stuff, etc. 

So while 4 more weeks is not what I had in mind, I would prefer to spend the extra "apart" time IN America, CLOSE to family, where everyone still speaks ENGLISH, rather than alone in Russia.  Besides, I can always use a little more time getting ready, and we will hopefully all stay on the same VISA schedule this way. I'm discovering that this visa business is not for the faint of heart.

Saturday, March 24, 2012

5 Weeks and a Tooth

Today marks Week Number 5! that Shane has been gone. Hopefully he will be headed home in a week and a half. Some days have been more trying than others, but for the most part, the time has been flying by. I suppose that is one blessing of being busy. Being mom 24/7 without dad to help is challenging, with Sundays taking the prize each week. I've tried to simplify the "church stuff" but carrying the diaper bag, the church bag, the scriptures, the baby, and two girls flanking my sides, I still feel like a locomotive trying to weave and chug-a-lug through the halls. Maybe I need to look into hiring a pilot car, complete with sign OVERSIZED LOAD to warn people.

Shane says he is enjoying the work in Russia. The past two weekends they processed 12,000 more head of cows that were trucked in, doing 6,000 a weekend. The farms he was at processed half each time, so they did about 3,000 cows each week. The first 6,000 were cows shipped in from the US, the following week, the cows were from Australia. After being shipped across the ocean, they are loaded into "cattle trucks" as shown below, which are really shipping containers with squares cut out for air circulation. They were trucked for as long as 40-50 hours from the port, without stopping.

They can fit about 35 head on one truck. Do the math, and they unloaded about 80 trucks at their farm for about 48 hours without stopping to sleep. They sorted the sick, lame, or bad eye cows out and doctored them in the chutes. Then they were all sorted into pens of about 350.

The Australian cattle were hotter than the US cattle, meaning it took less for them to get riled up and chargey. Shane received his fair share of kicks and maulings.

The American Quarter horses finally reached the end of their quarantine period and can now be used on the farms. Shane has been riding them to get a feel for them, and then the gentlest ones are turned over to the Russians because most have never ridden a horse before. This leaves the more challenging ones for Shane to ride and use--not always with the most successful results. Maybe I will get some time in a round pen with some of them once I get there.

I think the company likes him and are confident in his abilities. They said wherever they think they are going to have the most problems, is where they will send Shane. I thought it was a good compliment. So far he has told me two words that he has learned on the job: horse and hay.

Shane said that it is easy to spend over 1000 rubles while doing his grocery shopping, but it is really only about $30 USD with the exchange rate being about 30 rubles to 1 USD. Most times he doesn't know what he is buying because he can't read any labels, but he does eat a lot of eggs, chicken, potatoes, and broccoli.

Things on the homefront are progressing slowly: breakfast, schoolwork, scriptures, lunch, naptime, playtime, dinner, storytime, bedtime, laundry, cleaning, taxes, packing, etc. Rinse and repeat. I don't feel like I have 5 weeks of progress to document, but I feel like I haven't stopped much either.

The hunt still continues for a GOOD renter for our house. I've come to the conclusion that I probably won't be completely satisfied with anyone who wants to rent our house, but I would like to feel like it was in good hands while we were gone, and that we would still have a decent house left once we got back. Is that really too much to ask?

Next item of business. The other morning, Rain started telling me her tooth was broken. Thinking about how horribly she grinds her teeth at night while she is sleeping, I thought that might have made her tooth sore. However, she continued to tell me throughout the day it was broken. After a cursory look at the culprit, front left tooth, I couldn't see much wrong and went on with my day. That night we were brushing, she said it hurt, so I stopped and really got a good look at it. Still nothing. Then I touched it and it wiggled. Ahhh, I thought, mommy milestone--my oldest child is losing her first tooth! But my mom told me it was a little too early for her to be losing a tooth, so the next day I made an appointment with her dentist. Their earliest opening was a week away. They thought it was a good idea to look at it just to be safe. That night when we were brushing again, I noticed a puffed up lump above that front tooth on the gumline. It looked infected. So, early in the morning I called to see if I could get her in for an emergency appointment, and away we went.

Rain loves her dentist. They have the cutest little western set in the waiting room, and a miniature door to the exam chairs. But the highlight is the miniature toilet and sink in the restrooms. The girls always ask to go potty multiple times while we are there so they can use the toilet that "just matches" their size.

After a quick x-ray, we could see the tooth was compromised and infected. It needed to come out. They said the sooner it came out, the sooner the infection could be cleared up and less damage would occur to the permanent tooth behind it. I don't know how it happened. I don't recall her hitting her face or tooth at all, let alone hard enough to kill her tooth. But she had (she says it was her little doodle pad), it bled internally, got infected, and then puffed out because the swelling had nowhere else to go.

Even with some laughing gas, Rain still screamed and struggled during that initial numbing shot. Mesa looked on with a mix of curiosity and horror. I should have taken her out of the exam room to play with some toys during this part as not to taint her thus-far-positive-perception of our "tooth doctor". But then a quick yank, or two in this case, and the tooth was out.

Rain has been very good at reminding me not to let her drink out of a straw because I am always inadvertently handing her drinks that have straws attached. She and Mesa have been fascinated with the process of putting a tooth under a pillow while they sleep and having it turn into money.
 
I'm ashamed to say the Tooth Fairy failed on the very first night of her career. I fell asleep on the couch after a late night of taxes, only to have Rain wake me up in the morning, disappointed that the Tooth Fairy never came. I told her maybe the Tooth Fairy thought she was in Russia with Daddy, so she couldn't find her, and that maybe she would find her again the next night. The next morning Rain woke me up early to tell me that the Tooth Fairy DID find her this time and left her some money. Whew! I hope Mesa doesn't get any ideas about losing a tooth early so hers will turn to money, too.

Wednesday, February 29, 2012

Raja

My girls ask me lots of questions, some of which need decoding. One such question went about like this: "Mom, are we going to Raja?"

Now my first thought was that Rain was referring to the tiger from Aladdin, which didn't make sense because I didn't think my girls had seen that movie yet. Then it clicked...Russia, pronounced in exotic, childish, parroting of what has been tossed about a lot as of late.

This is our story.
This picture was taken on the spur of the moment, in the last light of the day. It was chilly, but the girls were good sports when I made them take their coats off for the picture. Echo looks a little silly, but I figured we had 4 out of the other 5 looking decent, so it's a winner. I used it for our application and it has since become my favorite family picture of us so far. [Family pictures are a miraculous event for us] 

(The following excerpts may or may not be part of my talk that we were asked to give in anticipation of moving out of our ward. A lot came from my journal, which I felt was blog-worthy as well.)  =)

For the past while, I have been frustrated with the relationship of righteousness and prosperity. I had read in the scriptures many times about it. For example:

2 Ne. 1:20 And he hath said that: aInasmuch as ye shall keep my bcommandments ye shall cprosper in the land; but inasmuch as ye will not keep my commandments ye shall be cut off from my presence.

The promise was there, many times, so why was it not happening to us? So I pondered it, prayed about it, talked with Shane about it. And I asked him: "Why are we not prospering?" We examined our habits, and looked for ways to improve. I said, “We are reading our scriptures almost daily with our family, we have family prayer twice a day, we attend our meetings weekly, we are trying to fulfill our callings, we fast, and pay our tithing. What are we not doing? What can we do better? Why are we not prospering?"

Now, I know there are also lessons in patience and enduring trials, but to me it seemed like at some point, the law of the harvest would prevail. I also know there are also many definitions of "prospering" and I can't deny that I have been truly blessed in life. Prosperity is not always directly linked with monetary wealth, but I still felt that I wanted to live honorably and be responsible for my financial obligations, which had been pared down to the bare minimums for quite some time, just trying to make the ends meet. I didn't like being in that place, and I was often overwhelmed with feeling powerless to change much of it.  

Now for the past couple months Shane has been looking at different cattle ranches, trying to find something that would suit our family and circumstances better. Moving away from my family and this area was not very enticing to me. But I felt that if it was the right thing for us, I would be able to do it.

One weekend, Shane went to Oregon to look at some ranches, and I stayed to move some cows with my family here. I rode out with my mom to help with my uncle's cattle drive, and while we were driving, we talked about the whole "looking for a ranch situation." I remember telling my mom that "I had had the feeling we were going to move somewhere for a time. I didn't know where or for how long, but I had been having that feeling for awhile."

But along with that feeling was a feeling of disappointment. I didn't want to move away from my family and my home. Shane was in overdrive looking at ranches, figuring numbers, talking on the phone, making these big plans, and yet, my heart was NOT in it. There was no spark in it for me. I kept wondering, "If we are supposed to move, why don't I feel the same energy about it that Shane does?" I started questioning that initial feeling of knowing that we would move. Was I supposed to move just because Shane wanted to? Was the Lord preparing me for that? But I was struck with painful thoughts and questions that I didn't know how to answer. I wondered a lot about my role as a wife and how to best support my husband. But I struggled inwardly. Weren't my feelings just as important as Shane's? What if I didn't want to move? What about my goals and dreams? Shane felt that we were moving in the right direction. I wasn't so sure, and the guilt ate at me daily. Was this one of the times when I was supposed to blindly trust the Lord and it would all turn out in the end? Why wasn't I receiving the same confirmation as Shane? Did the Lord feel that it was necessary to give me one? Did I need one? Yes! I firmly believed that if the Lord wanted me to do something as big as uprooting my family and moving "far" away [read 'far' as in Oregon or Montana], He would not expect me to do it without a confirmation that it was what I was supposed to do. I felt that I was important enough, as an individual, and not just clumped in with my husband, that I could receive my own answer. And so I kept waiting. 

Elder Quentin L. Cook stated:
Heavenly Father and family are inseparably connected. When we understand the many dimensions of this connection, we can begin to comprehend more completely how personal and individual are Heavenly Father's love for and relationship to each of us. Understanding how He feels about us gives us the power to love Him more purely and fully. Personally feeling the reality, love, and power of that relationship is the source of the deepest and sweetest emotions and desires that can come to a man or woman in mortality. These deep emotions of love can motivate us and give us power in times of difficulty and trial to draw closer to our Father. (Full talk here)

The Lord was truly merciful to my unsettled heart. How could I have ever doubted that my Heavenly Father did not know me individually and knew what was best for me. He had something in mind, something far better than I could have ever imagined!

About 2 weeks before Christmas, Shane and I were sitting down one evening after the whole nightly bedtime routine. Shane was flipping through his livestock newspaper he gets every week, and I was probably picking up toys. We ran across a classified advertising for a job in Russia. We had seen it before, several times, and Shane often teased me that I should have gone on to vet school, because I could have been a vet for a company in Russia. We also laughed about it and then went on with our day. But this time, we said, Why not? They are also offering positions as a Cow/Calf Manager. I had the degree they wanted, and Shane had the experience. So we decided to apply as a team. It took me about a week to pull together our resumes, references and everything. There were several small miracles in that process such as finding my diploma, finding contact information to critical references, getting a family picture, etc. The whole time I worked on our application, I had the feeling we were going to get the job. I sent it off. We got a call from the company in Russia 2 days later, offering the job, and we accepted.

I love this quote from Elder David A. Bednar:
"The Lord's tender mercies are the very personal and individualized blessings, strength, protection, assurances, guidance, loving-kindnesses, consolation, support, and spiritual gifts which we receive from and because of and through the Lord Jesus Christ. Truly, the Lord suits 'his mercies according to the conditions of the children of men' (D&C 46:15).

Faithfulness, obedience, and humility invite tender mercies into our lives, and it is often the Lord's timing that enables us to recognize and treasure these important blessings." (Full text here).

This was really an individualized blessing for me--a tender mercy for my troubled heart--and because I had been so focused on this issue, I could recognize the Lord's timing in our lives, and I have been blessed because of it. 

I know that there will be challenges and trials during our 3 year contract. We haven’t even gotten there and we have hit some bumps in the road. The first major bump is that they want Shane to go first for 1-3 months for a trial period to see if he fits with the company and if he likes it. Then they will fly the rest of the family over. There are so many questions with the house, the van, how are we going to communicate, how do we get three little girls to Russia in one happy piece? If I focus on all the questions, I get doubts and fears creeping in, but if I go back to the feelings we received when we’ve prayed about it, then I know the Lord is taking care of us. He can see more than we can. He can see the big picture, so we can trust Him that He will also take care of the details.

So, a little bit about the job.
We will be working for Miratorg. They are currently the #1 Pork producer in Russia, and are on their way to becoming the #1 producer in Beef as well. By the end of the year they will have approximately 100,000 head of beef cows.

We will be in the Bryansk Oblast, or province, of Russia. To brush up on your my geography, this region is horseshoed by the Ukraine and Belarus, so it is on Russia's western edge, bordering the European block.  


  • The Bryansk province has a population of more than 1.3 million. The two closest cities we will be dealing with and their populations are listed below:

PochepПочеп17,064
TrubchevskТрубчевск16,342 (source)

  • There are 33 letters in the Russian alphabet, which is Cyrillic based. For your viewing pleasure, I've inserted a lovely chart below,  [via].

We are going to have fun learning this language. Haha. I decided that if I was going to be there, I was going to do all I could to immerse myself in the culture, including learning the language. There is a good chance I will be homeschooling the girls for a variety of reasons, so I hope they get enough proper exposure to the language so I won't mess them up too badly. They will probably be teaching me Russian by the time we are done.

The closest connection to the Church is the Russia Moscow West Mission Branch, which I believe is located out of Pochep. From what we can gather, there isn't even a branch in our area. I know there is at least two other families there that are members, so we are hoping we can open a branch in our area.

The closest temple is the Kyiv, Ukraine Temple. Mapquest apparantly doesn't know how to give me directions from Bryansk, or even Moscow, to Kiev, so I'm not sure of the distance. Roughly 300 miles, if my map measuring is correct.

We are super busy getting ready and ironing out details, but we are excited for this adventure.

So, in response to Rain's question, the answer would be: "Yes, we are moving to Raja!"